Met an amazing woman yesterday her name is Barbara Reiner. We had an insightful conversation on hiring practices around weight and size. Her speciality...well is a lot web design, management among a few. I explained my approach to Sizism and that it is the last acceptable prejudice. She asked me was I judged based on my size. I of course answered in the affirmative. I have realized something amazing. When I was little people would say (which I still don't believe) "You have a beautiful face..." "You have beautiful skin..." and so I have realized at now a ripe old age of 30 something that the dot. dot. dot. was....if only you would:
1. Lose weight
2. Were thinner
3. Lost about 100 pounds
4. Take care of yourself
It took me quite a while but now I see, they were complimenting me. Go figure.
Congradulations on accepting it!! thats a bit step dear!!!
ReplyDeleteNo ... here, but you are a lovely woman!!!
i have ALWAYS HATED when people say that.
ReplyDeletethere was this gorgeous girl i knew for a while who had a little heft. people would always say "she has such a beautiful face"...and then just not mention anything about the size of her rump. but it was implied! which is just as bad.
when girls are pretty and thin, you won't hear ANYONE say she has a pretty face. they just say she's pretty.
please, people, stop saying that. it's just as insulting. i'd rather be told to my face..."hey, you'd be prettier if you'd lose 20 pounds." i would actually agree.