A BOLD question!

Ladies and Gentleman....a bold question have you ever not had a relationship because you were overweight...meaning you thought or knew the relationship didn't happen because of your size?

Is it okay to say something about someone's weight?

Simply...is it okay to say something about someone's weight...such as:

1.  Wow!  You look great, you have lost some weight huh?

2.  Hmmm, what have you been doing you look thinner.

3.  from an older aunt...Are you putting on weight?

4.  I almost didn't notice you, you've....

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Incidentally...

Where did you Go and what did you DO this summer?

I am interested readers in what activities you engaged in this summer that might benefit our readers...did you take a cruise and do an activity that has you jazzed and had a weight limitless...fill me in WHAT DI D YOU DO?

Are Latinos Different?

...well of course everyone is different in some way my curiosity needed information, solid experiences and facts not just "what I think" and so I asked a woman who has a new baby and husband who she adores about weight and Latinos.  The beautiful distinction that she made was that there are sub-sets of Latinos...Guatemalans, Venezuelans, El Salvadorian, Spanish (I say from Spain) Peruvian oh we could go on, but she is from Mexico and told me that while she was dating her husband (also from Mexico) her mother would sternly remind her and a friend (they were dating at the same time) to dress up when they were with their boyfriends (now both husbands) AND GET THIS that the other day after a year plus of marriage her mother told her she couldn't leave the house without makeup and getting a little dressed up hmmm I thought and dug deeper.  A Revelation Willis tried to convince me that Gourda (meaning fat) is not derogatory to woman in particular and it was me with the problem (me being militant about weight and acceptance) anyway what we discovered is that although this woman lovingly calls her husband Gourdo it means sweety in Spanish NOT FATTY and in Venezuela (Willis' first introduction to it) it was not meant as a compliment but meant to say plainly "She is fat. or He is Fat or worse You are fat.  Now with that all being said lovingly in this woman's family after she had her gorgeous baby girl her aunts gave her a few months and asked her "How is your weight coming?" Then later when she was the same size, they gave her a lovely gift...a girdle. My, My...another woman by the same name said her father didn't care if other kids were fat but she was not to be fat or for her face to break out her mother being petite too.  Thus the explanation for the type of clothing made/worn...belts that make you look curvier than you are but also bras that make your breast stick out and oh my high heeled shoes which finish the package...along with makeup and the right accessories well you understand.  Not only this but many of the woman I have spoken to have been groomed to give their not only their boyfriends and husbands a lot of attention but to be that way with men in general.  Deep down I think that is wrong for me and will not happen as long as I don't hit my head but we will see.  I tend to be very militant about weight and how people feel, I wish they or I could make the conversation welcoming so what they really want to say comes out....How might I do this?