A friend and educational mentor of mine brought up a wonderful point...is it reverse judgement to "hate" thin people who can exercise and look good sweating? I thought...is is prejudice, is it wrong? Well, I suppose to hate anyone is wrong, envy is too. ...and really who is looking. I think she looks great and is doing all in her power at this moment to be healthy. I wonder though, like the discovery of one diversity expert "racism is only something that can be imposed upon a group that is disempowered" I would say the same is true for thinner people whether they be children, men, or women...or teenagers. If you are thin the wind is at your back in many situations. It isn't okay to "hate" them but really do they care? A woman once said "soon you will be scanning the room to see how you rate among the woman in the room...are you the youngest, thinnest, what is everyone wearing?" I am not sure that doesn't happen to all women especially those that are overweight, curvy, plus sized etc (still have not found the right word)...
When a woman is thin. When a woman is the thinnest...she may act as if you are not competition if you are overweight. Taking me back to my theory about homosexual men and heavy women (for another day)...oh well if you insist briefly; many gay men have overweight women as friends unless the gay male is high profile, wealthy in a sense untouchable then he possesses a confidence oh I don't know my theory was that a gay male or male that is coming out befriends an overweight woman because other men and women will know that he "couldn't be serious about actually liking her right?" Everyone will know he is available. This was my theory in my younger days and I still wonder. I wonder if you have noticed these things...I am just self conscious always wondering always pondering thinking weight is everything.
"Hate" may not be the best word... envy is better.
ReplyDeleteA good reminder after reading this, everyone,no matter who you are or what you look like, has their own challenges. And to you, those challenges are important. Which comes to the who's looking? and really are they even looking at what you "think" they are looking at? hmmm...
I love how you always give yummy thoughts... "See ya later gorgeous!" Always makes me stop and think... me?!
When I was pregnant, a good friend of mine called me a sacred vessel. She was right... I was carring something very important!
And, you are right. I am the only me. I am gorgeous as me! No one else could possibly be me... but they can be gorgeous as themselves!
Yesterday I was not afraid to sweat and show it. After class, I went to a Pampered Chef show and then to Target. All Sweaty and beautiful!
A friend asked me if I wanted a dry shirt. I said no thanks, I am still sweating... no need to get a clean shirt sweaty!
You rock! Gorgeous you!
I love it and I am sure you got a few unwanted stares from that gender I just love.....men
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